What Hurts More – Divorce Or The Way You Deal With It?

August 25th, 2009 by Johnny Will

Divorce in Canada has become a very common occurrence today. From all the information I gathered from my clinical psychologist friend I was able to understand that people’s approach towards divorce today is different from what it was a few years ago. People have started to forget that separation through divorce is emotionally complicated and devastating.

Yes, practically speaking it is not going to do any good, ruing about what happened. What has happened has happened. The damage has been done and it cannot be repaired unless and otherwise either of the persons is a sage and can easily forgive people for their misdeeds and hurtful behaviour. But we cannot keep the life of an innocent child at stake for the mistakes done by us.

A recent news article I read says that it is not divorce that hurts children a lot, it is the ugliness surrounding the whole issue that hurts them and disturbs them badly. How can one control this situation? The article I read was mainly about classes for divorced couples, classes that would teach them how to bring up their children properly and without sowing any bitterness in their minds. Why do divorced people need to undertake this? The answer is simple and straightforward. You may be exes to one another but still you are the parents of your children. They need you. They need your motivation and guidance so that they come up well in life. Most of the divorced people generally start hating their exes and some people even use their children as a buffer to vent out their anger. This is such an atrocious act. It isn’t right to punish your children for the mistakes done by you.

It was said in the article that the class which lasted 6 weeks benefitted a divorced couple and their son as the way they dealt with their child and one another was totally different from their earlier behaviour. It is vital to maintain a cordial relationship with one’s ex spouse. This purpose was said to be fulfilled after taking these classes.

Does one need to attend classes to achieve this? Yes, it is necessary. Most of the times divorce is a painful event and both of them involved in it are in a tempestuous mindset forgetting logic and reason and inflicting the worst kind of damages on their children.

As mentioned in the article by Lynette Berg Robe who practises matrimonial law in California, “It’s not that anybody is trying to get them not to get divorced. It’s just that if you behave in a certain way, you’ll end up with an unhappy child who will grow up to be an unhappy adult.”

These classes are certainly worth attending in this time when divorce in Canada has started increasing, because they ensure harmony between the two warring sides and sees to that their deeds don’t affect their children in any way.

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